I had a wonderful G+ hangout a couple of weekends ago with some lovely blogging ladies to celebrate Katlyn's blogiversary. It's about as geeky as it sounds; what else is a girl to do on a Saturday night?
Let's just say - they inspired this post! Thanks guys!
Being open about having a blog is quite hard. When I tell people I'm a blogger, I tend to have one of three reactions from them:
What do you write about? (Interested or just very polite)
How do you manage that and hold down a job at the same time? (An attempt to turn away from this unknown topic)
OR my personal favourite
Mmmmmm that's nice. (I don't understand you - please stop talking to me).
Until you have made a commitment to blogging, where you make time to share your life, hobbies, passions, families or just thoughts with another, I'm not sure you can really understand what it's all about.
We must seem like quite a crazy breed of people, talking about: stats, sponsors, swapping, hopping, guest-posting, featuring, networking. And more to the point. Who has a life THAT interesting that they should write about it? What makes someone spend hours of their time making sure they post regularly, reply to emails from 'strangers' from across the globe and write engaging, thoughtful posts?
I know that it becomes even weirder for people close to us bloggers. I think my boyfriend is pretty chilled about me blogging. He sees it as a hobby, probably prefers I didn't talk about it all of the time, and knows that I will stop if I have important things to do (like the pile of books sitting next to me that I intended to mark this evening!). He told me recently, he doesn't read it so much any more. I guess the fascination has worn off...or maybe it's because I haven't mentioned how awesome he is in a while.
You only have to read people's blogs to realise that not all husbands, boyfriends or parents truly 'get' the blogging thing. I'll admit, I have had
a few quite a few times when I might have spent a couple of hours an entire day on a new blog project when I could be doing something more useful or even sociable. But hey it's not so dissimilar from the following hobbies:
- Obsessive playing of computer games, particularly Call of Duty or any that require a headset.
- Golf - a game that requires a full day of wandering around and the dubious wearing of Argyle socks.
- Collecting things - the categorisation of any collection properly, surely takes time especially when you consider the labelling.
- Following a sporting team religiously. All of that match-watching, rewatching, discussing and travelling too and from matches, races....the pub can sure make a 90 minute match extend into a few days.
- Popping out with 'the lads', usually to the shed or garage. A cry for 'we're just going to check the oil' turns into, 'we've decided to build a car'.
Apparently though, there are some occasions when having a blog becomes O.K. It would seem that when some people monetize their blogs, it somehow becomes purposeful. The realisation that you might be able to fund a meal out or even pay for your own shoes and it becomes alright. Either that, or you need a super understanding other half, like my awesome one. In case I hadn't mentioned that already...
My message to those folks who don't understand why I blog would be this:
The hobbies I have are fairly solitary and not really shared by my real life buds. My online buds do; they have helped me develop my love of writing, appreciated my crafts, love of books and crazy projects. When you're sewing something, it isn't particularly social. On here it is. It gives me a place to chat with people who like the same stuff as me and just feel like less of a loner. I don't feel like there's anything wrong with wanting to belong.
How do people react to your blogging? What are the weirdest responses you've had? How do you keep your family happy and balance your blogging life?